A modern approach to relationships This book is a transformative, do-it-yourself guide for anyone who wants to do better in love. It is not about working together with your partner on your issues (so if you're in a relationship, don't let your partner read it over your shoulder!). It's not about bringing out the toolkit and trying to 'fix' yourself (nor is it about pointing the finger at your partner!). It's about figuring out who you are - or become - when you're in a relationship. It's about knowing your strengths, triggers, reactions and vulnerabilities. It's about having tools you can use to cope with challenges, iron out your difficulties and work towards being content and at ease in your relationships, your own unique version of a Good Partner.