"I'm going to do the opposite of everything my parents did." "I want to give my kids everything I didn't have." "My parents did a great job--I want to parent just like they did." Your childhood memories can have a profound impact on how you interact with, parent, and bond with your children. And while your actions may come from a loving place, when you parent through your past, you unknowingly make parenting decisions that attempt to satisfy your own unmet childhood needs, rather than tuning into what your child needs right now. In Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were , expert family therapist Dr. Brie Turns-Coe introduces the tools you need to begin parenting in the present - allowing you to break the cycle of generational trauma, rebuild the parent-child relationship, and develop a deeper connection with your child that allows them to thrive. Whether you're raising a defiant teenager, a moody adolescent, or a tantrum-prone toddler, this book will help you: Heal from childhood wounds that dictate how you parent Break free from toxic parenting styles Communicate effectively with your child in times of distress Parent with greater intention Adjust unrealistic parenting expectations Grieve the child (or childhood) you wish you had.