With fifty percent of marriages ending in divorce and the ever-increasing number of "trial" marriages, serial monogamists, and "scared singles," attaining a happy, long-lasting relationship can seem hopelessly out of reach. Where can couples turn when the old rules don't work anymore? In the quest for safety, belonging, continuity, and comfort, we often fall back on traditional, deeply ingrained expectations and assumptions about relationships, including such stifling stereotypes as the male provider and the good wife and mother. But these conventions ignore our individual needs to learn to love ourselves and to find and fulfill our true life's work, as well as our need for a more authentic, ongoing emotional connection to our mate. This book provides the keys for a deeper understanding of modern partners' "higher order needs" and the tools for the fulfillment within the context of a committed, loving, and honest relationship. Seana McGee and Maurice Taylor, couple educators and husband-and-wife psychotherapist team, have some answers.