Insights on self-care for caregivers who often overlook their own mental health, rooted in the author's personal experience, this book provides solace to the family and friends of those with dementia Where do you find comfort when someone you used to turn to no longer even recognizes you? Eveline Helmink's life changed when her mother started to show signs of dementia. As the situation worsened, her father lived in denial-- leaving Helmink feeling stranded and clinging to the difficult emotions. For the millions of people with dementia, there are even more people--over 16 million according to Family Caregiver Alliance--who are not receiving the support they need as they take care of their family or friend battling the syndrome. Dementia has a huge impact not only on sufferers--but also on those around them. Intimate and informative, When a Loved One Has Dementia is the companion to turn to for those whose own needs, wishes, and feelings have been put aside. Discussing the impact of dementia without focusing on the medical aspects, Helmink offers an unflinching narrative of her own experiences caring for her mother and doesn't shy away from the raw and painful parts. Helmink helps caregivers tackle the most challenging trials: the effects of dementia on interpersonal relationships; how relatives and caregivers can deal with feelings of pain, grief, helplessness, anger, or guilt; and how they can not only forgive themselves, but become self-compassionate. Helmink discusses these painful situations honestly and openly, but also shows caregivers the touching moments that are full of meaning--and how to reconnect with love and acceptance.