Although society is becoming more tolerant of gay people, and even accepting of them in some places, gay people continue to suffer psychological damage caused by growing up in largely homophobic societies. How can gay people learn to love themselves when most of the signals society sends out denigrate their very being? Dr. Kevin Alderson has developed a method of building a positive gay identity based on extensive research and years of successful use of self-help psychology in his own practice. Each chapter of Breaking Out begins with a compelling reality-based anecdote followed by an examination of the problem that it highlights. This is followed by an overview of what needs to change, a self-assessment, comprehensive practical exercises to help gay men and lesbian women deal with the particular problem, and a post-test. Chapters cover such topics as homophobia, low self-esteem, denial of self, dealing with stereotypes, spirituality and religion, the reaction of family, friendship and relationships. Written in a conversational, upbeat tone, Breaking Out is the first complete and systematic self-help book to assist gay men and lesbian women build and enhance positive gay identities.