Introduction Part I Preparation 1. Reading Freud 2. Three 'must read' papers by Ferenczi 3. Children, animals, and poetry 4. Alternate professions 5. Life style requirements 6. Silent sacrifices 7. Seeking diverse supervision 8.
Setting up an office 9. A mysterious rug 10. Entering a world of ambiguity 11. Reading, reading and reading 12. Borrowed faith Part II Principles 13. Mental health vs. mental illness 14. A mentally healthy person 15.
Half-sane, half-insane 16. Happy and unhappy children 17. Peek-a-boo 18. Hunger, vision, and the rhythms of nature 19. Learning from children 20. The non-human envelope 21. Toy shops are not for kids 22. Spirituality vs.
religion 23. Sex-aggression-sex 24. Metapsychology 25. Two major updates on metapsychology 26. 'Bad' death instinct, 'good' death instinct 27. Six misunderstandings about death in psychoanalysis 28. Three reactions to separation 29. Two griefs that last a lifetime 30.
What happens to the deceased's possessions? 31. A crowded preconscious 32. Receiving vs. taking 33. Reaction formation and undoing 34. Even Unabomber 35. Double-bind 36. The unknown, the unmet, and the unlived 37.
Where does an aborted childhood go? 38. Being emotional vs. being sentimental 39. Feeling 'at home' 40. Who should change? 41. Toxic nobility 42. Basic trust, earned trust, and mutual trust 43. Good enough revenge 44.
Where the ego was 45. Two 'great crimes' 46. Detachment theory Part III Practice 47. Who picks the day and time for the first appointment 48. Abstinence 49. Safeguarding the sacred nature of the clinical space 50. Restroom 51. Where is Rome? 52.
Hearing is essential for listening 53. Floating couch 54. Does the analyst's gender matter? 55. No 'correct' way of laying on the couch 56. Handling patients' questions 57. Doodling etc. 58. Addressing the analyst by his/her professional title 59.
Not asking about actual sex 60. Before and after 61. About defecation and feces 62. Diminishing frequency of sessions 63. Chronic lateness 64. The use of a deliberately wrong interpretation 65. Small gifts given by immigrant patients 66. Refusing to listen to certain kinds of material 67.
Being special 68. Pleasure and mental illness 69. 'Insane chemistry' 70. Demystification 71. Imaginary interlocutors 72. When not to give the bill to a patient? 73. Humility 74. Which form of racism is worse? 75.
Masochistic funnel 76. The novelist and the poet 77. Analyst's boredom 78. Analyst's financial status 79. Where does the analyst look? 80. Insight addiction 81. Three different outcomes 82. Why not this at the end? 83.
The fate of the analyst's bills 84. Uttering an adult patient's first name 85. Procrastination and nail biting 86. Stillness 87. Cats, not dogs 88. Countertransference sublimation 89. Financial extremes Part IV Profession 90. The second beard 91.
Psychiatry and psychoanalysis 92. Do we need a prefix to 'psychoanalysis'? 93. Jewish psychoanalysis, Christian psychoanalysis 94. Pauses 95. Writers and non-writers 96. Analysts' memoirs 97. Was Bion Hindu? 98. PEP vetting 99.
Age-specific writing 100. The 'domestication' of wild analysis 101. Childless child analysts 102. Three tips for supervisors 103. Non-analyst friends 104. The future of psychoanalysis 105. Blood killing 106. Un-associated and un-affiliated 107.
The analyst's funeral 108. Analysts turned gurus 109. Taboos 110. The analyst's dog 111. Alternate pathways Acknowledgments About the author Name index.